December 2006

A regular e-zine from the British Institute of Sathya Sai Education  www.ssehv.org.uk

Dear Readers

Welcome to the December 2006 issue.

This month:

Online teaching resources update
In memory of Mr Kattampalli Valsan
New course in Compassionate Communication to form part of SSEHV Diploma
Integrating values into school life - ideas for teachers
Training update
Values story: Being Yourself

If you have any feedback, or would like to share your experiences of SSEHV, please write to us.

Finally, as this is our last newsletter for 2006, we would like to take this opportunity to send Season's Greetings to all our readers, and wish everyone a very Happy New Year.

Kind Regards,
The Edito
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Online teaching resources update

22 lesson plans in French have been added to the lesson plan archive on our website. Thanks to Christina Wilson for translating these.

There are now over 100 lesson plans on the SSEHV website in English, Spanish and French, which are all free to download, and have been provided as a resource for teachers and parents and anyone with an interest in teaching human values to children.

If you are bi-lingual in English and another language and would like to volunteer to help translate lesson plans in order for people in other countries to benefit from them, please email us. We particularly need translators and proofreaders in Spanish and Portuguese. We now have translation software for several languages, but we do still need proofreaders to check translated material.

Many thanks to everyone that has given their time to help to translate this material to date. We hope and believe that it will prove to be a very valuable international values based educational resource.

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In memory of Mr Kattampalli Valsan

We were very saddened by the recent sudden and unexpected death of Mr Kattampalli Valsan, father of Bina Valsan, the BISSE Area Co-ordinator for South London. Mr Valsan was a great support to Bina in all her efforts to promote human values education through running training courses for adults and SSEHV events and camps for children. Through this work he met a very large number of people and is remembered by everyone as an exceptionally gentle, humble and kind person who lived to serve others and was loved and respected by all.

Our love and thoughts are with Bina and Mrs Valsan.

A tribute website has been set up in memory of Mr Valsan where people can post messages and memories in celebration of his life.

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New course in Compassionate Communication to form part of SSEHV Diploma

Compassionate Communication is a new course that teaches practical processes that enable people to communicate in ways that are honest, powerful and compassionate and to develop their ability to transform blame, criticism and conflict into respectful and constructive communication. The first course took place in Ramsgate on 14th-18th October, and it will eventually form part of the SSEHV Diploma currently under development.

Aims of the course:

  • To understand various patterns and mindsets that may impede the process of communication and avoid the types of language that generate resentment, or lower self-esteem
  • To focus on shared human feelings and values and select processes that promote love and harmony
  • To generate relationships that are authentic and vibrant, where the people we meet are touched, inspired and uplifted
  • To practice our new understanding with both the people we like and those we find challenging, and discovering ways of satisfying both our personal needs and those of others.

How does it help?

  • Leads us to being heard and understood
  • Enables us to introduce clarity and to create a quality of connection that transforms situations
  • Leads us into a feeling of connectedness and warmth of heart
  • Empowers us to choose actions that are in harmony with everyone's needs and values

Methodology and Content

Material is extracted mostly from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a process of communication developed by Marshall Rosenberg in the USA in the 1960s, while readings and other references are gathered from a wide range of sources. Basic concepts are presented and explained by the facilitators. The main emphasis, however, is on pair and group practice of compassionate communication models. Time is spent on critical areas such as: identification and expression of feelings; taking responsibility for our feelings; making requests; giving and receiving with empathy; expressing anger fully; freeing ourselves from undesirable programming; expressing and receiving appreciation.

The course is based on practice rather than lectures. The practice involves pair and group share. Ample room is available for discussion and for opportunities to address real life situations for those who are willing to do so. Instructions are delivered in an informal manner.

Feedback

Comments from particpants on the Ramsgate course included:

"The material was excellently presented and the structure of the course allowed a great deal of interaction among participants, I particularly enjoyed the opportunity we were given to explore and discover things for ourselves."

"By the end I had the clear feeling that I was a different man, with numerous shortcomings and yet with a considerable potential to make life more wonderful for myself and the people I meet. From the comments I had, it appears that this is a common realisation. For me, compassionate communication is a path to be pursued."

"I still feel very privileged to have attended the course. I can now recognise the difference NVC makes when interacting with others. I feel very content and now have the confidence and ability to respond to rejections without initial blame followed by suffering."

"I feel hopeful and eager to practice the various strategies for more compassionate communication. I am so glad that I had pursued, put a stop
to my normal home and work commitments and went on the course. I will
definitely recommend it to family members and friends as well as work colleagues - a lovely learning experience!"

For more information about the Compassionate Communicate course, please contact Carole Alderman.

 

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Integrating values into school life - ideas for teachers

The following suggestions may be useful for any teachers looking for ways to integrate human values into their school:

  • Fill walls of school corridors with values-rich materials from the children's class-work to make the school a values-conscious environment. Some schools specialise corridors for each of the values e.g. a corridor for truth, a corridor for love, etc.

  • Design theme days that allow one or more of the values to be explored by a whole class, Key Stage or even the whole school. For example, a 'Not Wasting' day allows pupils to reflect on how not to hurt the planet by using resources wisely and caringly. Link in with outside agencies and bring in IT too - there are many environmental related websites.

  • Keep an eye open for national days and charity days that are linked to the values, so that you can show the values in action. Most things can be linked in simple ways to the five values, which enables your staff team to keep a values base to everything the school does. The children love this.

  • Run Good Values Clubs in the lunchtimes or after-school. They need only last 30 minutes if you are really pushed for time and should include a story, songs or discussions - things to involve and stimulate pupils to make the club fun and interesting.
More ideas are available on our website at www.ssehv.org.uk under 'Learning Zone - Integrating Values into the Curriculum'.

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Story

Being Yourself   

by Kay Challenor

She plunged into the water and diving deep, began to walk along the bottom of the riverbed. Her movements were slow as she moved against the current, similar to a space man walking on the moon.

Life just was not fair!

The water around her was cool and soothing after being in the heat of the day. Calming to her emotions as well, which were running high.

It was so unfair being a hippo. Running out of breath, Lady lifted her head, kicked her feet and returned to the surface. Immediately she could feel the sun scorching on her back so she made her way to the muddy bank and, covering herself with wet orange clay, stood amid the reeds half submerged in water.

She was soon joined by Pee, a very smart looking Oxpecker with yellow and grey marking his feathers.

"Why, Lady, whatever is the matter?" Pee inquired, seeing tears slowly roll down the hippo's cheek.

"It's miserable being a hippo," replied Lady with a sigh.

"Why?"

"Well look at me. I'm big and fat, ugly and clumsy, destined to spend my life waddling around in the mud to stop this grey hairless skin of mine from burning in the sun."

"Why, Lady…"

"Don't call me Lady! Some lady; look at me! Now they are ladies, look at them."

Lady paused to watch a group of gazelles darting across the sandy earth. Their golden and cream coats gleamed in the sun and they leaped this way and that, higher and higher into the air.

"They look so light, so beautiful and so carefree," moped Lady, "Just like dancers, so graceful."

A family of giraffes followed the gazelles. They too had beautiful coats that glistened with health. Their long necks gently moved as they took slow deliberate strides on their long legs. They looked completely at peace with the world around them.

"Wish I was a giraffe," whispered Lady.

"You are funny," laughed Pee. "Do you know why the gazelles leap and dart from one spot to another as they run?"

"For fun?"

"Hardly! They are running away from predators; lions, leopards or hyenas. They leap to confuse their pursuers, in an attempt to put them off the chase. It is not so much a dance as a fight for life, even if it is beautiful to watch. You wouldn't really want that would you?" said Pee, "After all what are you afraid of as a hippo?"

"Why, nothing really," replied Lady. She paused and gazed up at the blue sky in deep thought.

"I guess the only thing is the occasional hungry lion, but I just charge to see them off and then come into the water. Nothing bothers me in the water, not even the crocodiles. Actually I do love being in the water. It is so, well, calming and comforting. She waded deeper into the river until just her eyes and nose were showing above the surface. The water moved around her body, caressing and soothing. Feeling happier, Lady kicked out her legs and began to swim. Pee flew onto her head for a free ride.

"Have you any idea how gracefully you swim?" he said."Quite the expert."

"Just watch," said Lady as she dived to the bottom of the river. She began to move her legs and head, moving and turning, a picture of skill and expertise. Looking a bit like a small grey submarine in the hand of a master helmsman. She came back to the surface and was rejoined by a chuntering Pee.

"You nearly drowned me diving like that with no warning!"

"Good though, aren't I?"

"Yes, yes, very good. So why don't you start to believe in yourself? We all have our own individual skills. Time you began to enjoy yours rather than comparing yourself with others. Comparing only makes you miserable."

"Hum," said Lady.

The two swam to the opposite side of the river where the giraffes were enjoying their afternoon drink. With their long necks they had to splay open their legs to enable their mouths to reach the surface of the water. It was a very tricky procedure and in this position the giraffes were very vulnerable, open to an attack from a predator.

"Oh Lady, you made me jump!" one startled giraffe remarked. "Thought you were a crocodile for a minute. I could only see your eyes and nose and that is just how they sneak close before they make an attack."

"Sorry," said Lady. "Do you know I have always wanted to be tall and elegant like you, but it isn't very easy for you to drink is it?"

"No we have to be very careful. You wouldn't want to be us Lady. You would miss your water too much. We often see you swimming and diving in the cool water and it looks so much fun. You are very lucky you know."

The giraffe's words remained in Lady's head and she thought about them for a long time. She thought about them all that day and all the next day as well and the day after. In fact, she remembered the words for the rest of her life and from that day on she was never sad or critical about who she was or what she looked like. She spent her days rolling in the orange mud to keep cool and having long conversations with Pee. And often, at night, she would lay half submerged in the water, gazing up at the stars and thinking just how lucky she was to be alive.

Lady by the riverbank.
Illustration by Kay Challenor

 

Talking Points: Self-acceptance, Happiness and Contentment.

Questions:

1. Why was Lady miserable?
2. What were the gazelles good at?
3. Why did the gazelles leap?
4. What was Lady good at?
5. What made Lady happy?
6. What did the giraffe say to Lady?
7. How did the story make you feel?
8. Does it remind you of anything in your own life?

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Training Update

All SSEHV courses are free to attend, although a refundable deposit of £10 may be required at registration (this is to cover photocopying costs of the extensive handouts provided at the course for you to keep). Details of all our training courses, together with contact information and dates can be found on our website at www.ssehv.org.uk, in the Training section.

A participant on the Foundation Course that took place in Leicester in July commented, "Since I came all the way from Austria I had high expectations. They were all fulfilled. There is so much that I will do with the 'framework' offered."

Forthcoming SSEHV courses are:

Pinner, Middlesex - Intensive Foundation Course - Contact Nita Moda
28th - 31st Dec, 2nd - 3rd Jan 07

East Ham - London - Foundation Course - Contact: Christina Wilson
24th Feb, 3th, 10th, 17th, 24th & 31st March 2007.

Maidstone, Kent - Intensive Foundation Course - Contact: Lark Beecham
11th - 16th March 2007.

Ramsgate, Kent - Intensive Foundation Course - Contact: Lark Beecham
1st - 6th April 2007.


If there is no course scheduled in your area but you would like there to be one, this can be organised, as long as there are a minimum of ten people who would like to attend. Please contact the editor for more information.

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